MY JOURN_Y TO

HAPPINESS

I FAILED . . . LIKE . . . A LOT
I FAILED . . . LIKE . . . A LOT

My elementary school grades were good to average, but once my dad was no longer in the picture and we moved from the north side to the south side of Chicago, everything changed. El Niños Heroes Elementary School did not live up to its name for me. My first F was in the 3rd grade from a geography test. We lived on the south side of Chicago, so I thought the answer to what country we lived in was South America. I had no understanding of the world I lived in.

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TEEN MOM, HIDDEN HOMELESS, HIGH SCHOOL DROPOUT
TEEN MOM, HIDDEN HOMELESS, HIGH SCHOOL DROPOUT

With no real understanding of dating, love, sex education, or self-esteem, I became a teen mom at the age of 15. Becoming a high school dropout and a part of the hidden homeless came immediately after. I was told that I ruined my chance at happiness and that my world never move beyond my zip code.

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COLLEGE TRY #1
COLLEGE TRY #1

After being instructed to drop out of high school, I later enrolled and graduated from an alternative high school. College try #1 started at a community college, but living with my mother again also meant living with verbal abuse and being under the constant threat of being put out on the street again , and that resulted in a 0.667 GPA.  I was told to get a regular job because college, and other rites of passage, was not for "someone like me."

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COLLEGE TRY #2
COLLEGE TRY #2

College try #2 came with no ACT, no SAT, and no letters of recommendation. I restarted my college education through The CHANCE Program at NIU. Once I was strong enough to leave my toxic environment, I took a chance on moving to the middle of nowhere in the center of cornfield. I received love and support from staff members, faculty, and other students and earned my first successful academic semester!

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COLLEGE TRY #3
COLLEGE TRY #3

College try #3 came with a transfer to NEIU.  This new college experience paved the way to my becoming a McNair Scholar and I researched how images influence Black students' decisions to choose specific academic institutions. From that, I learned how important representation is to visualization and actualization. Not only did I complete my Bachelor degree, I gained my Master's degree as well.

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SEEING IS BELIEVING
SEEING IS BELIEVING

A class assignment led me to, Michael Moore's documentary "Sicko" where I got that "Ah-Ha" moment. At 1 hour, 16 minutes, and 49 seconds is where I saw a Black American sharing the privileges of working and living in France.  She doesn't know it, but she inspired me to expand my search for wellness, happiness, and joy beyond the borders of the United States of America.

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I APPLIED FOR AN EXPERIENCE ABROAD AND I WON!!!
I APPLIED FOR AN EXPERIENCE ABROAD AND I WON!!!

Shortly after seeing the Michael Moore film "Sicko", it felt possible to apply to an international fellowship in Chennai, India...AND I WON! My experience there gave me a global perspective on wellness, joy, and happiness, and most important, the experience began my research into the nations that would best meet my goals for my happiness.

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WE SAID YES!!!
WE SAID YES!!!

After doing the work to get my mental health in order, I knew how to "date with a purpose." Because I knew that my happiness included not living in America, my first date questions always included if that person was open to permanently living abroad. Noah Lomax was the only one that did not hesitate to say "Yes"; and one year later when he asked to marry me, I said "Yes" too.

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OUR GOAL FOR A LIFE ABROAD TURNED TO A PLAN IN ACTION
OUR GOAL FOR A LIFE ABROAD TURNED TO A PLAN IN ACTION

Only two years after we met, we improved our financial wellness by paying off two cars early, medical bills, utility bills, taxes owed, got married at City Hall for $60, paid less than $150 for our wedding rings, and we did the work to get our student loans out of default. With only student loan debt and with all the things that have financially gone wrong for so many during the 2020 global pandemic, we worked together to save $75,000 to date toward our goal to move abroad in the near future!

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Our Allegiance is to Our Happiness
Our Allegiance is to Our Happiness

Our allegiance is to our happiness, so we have given ourselves permission to find the places in the world that will offer (1) a real work-life balance, (2) options for a robust unemployment security, (3) universal healthcare, (4) low cost childcare and paid child benefits, (5) great public education, (6) better protected human rights, (7) strict civilian gun laws, (8) lower incarceration rates, and (9) lower police killing rates.

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WE HAD THE "WHAT IFS"
WE HAD THE "WHAT IFS"

Choosing to do a global search for happiness is a massive undertaking and having the “what if” questions was normal.  But once we  measured our values and took the time to search which nations can best support the elements of our wellness, joy, and happiness, then the fear of uncertainty got smaller with knowledge and time.

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REMOVING THE "WHAT IFS"
REMOVING THE "WHAT IFS"

The dreaded “what ifs” no longer holds me back because I trust in my research on the history, laws, governments, traditions, and cultures of the U.S. and have done an extensive comparative analysis of other nations abroad that look to improve the human condition. Thank you for taking the time to read my life story because I am hopeful that my life can help inspire yours.

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 ...AND NOW MY
HAPPIN_SS INCLUDES

Emotional Well-Being
Emotional Well-Being

I have been diagnosed with PTSD. I'm not a war veteran. I'm just a Black American. Counseling services, breathing techniques, and the power of saying "NO" has been instrumental in my emotional well-being.

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Environmental Performance
Environmental Performance

I'm still learning about the environment and how we humans can help heal the damage that we caused. I recycle, I don't buy in bulk, and I'm looking to live in a country where the water is the most drinkable.

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Financial Transparency
Financial Transparency

We've paid off 2 cars early, medical bills, taxes owed, and utility bills. We've tracked our expenses daily and have minimized our cable, internet, and cell phone bills. We've gone from no savings to saving one year's salary.

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Intellectual Resources
Intellectual Resources

Obtaining my college education was an amazing accomplishment, but it is one that cost me dearly. Student loan debt is the only debt that I have. Moving to a country where a college education and technical training is free is a part of my happiness journey.

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Occupational Upgrade
Occupational Upgrade

Increasing my skills has increased my options for employment opportunities here and abroad.

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Healthy Lifestyle
Healthy Lifestyle

With the help of bariatric surgery, I have gone from 287.7 to 182.4 pounds. I've gained back 20 pounds and I'm incorporating green tea, OMAD, and jogging to have better health and fitness.

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Social Relationships
Social Relationships

I have relationships that are fulfilling and joyful. I don't have the most friendships, I have the most meaningful.

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Minimalist Culture
Minimalist Culture

I bought into the consumeristic culture, and after having traveled abroad to see how people live with less and learned how less things decreases stress, I began to downsize. It now takes about 2 hours to clean and organize my entire home.

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Location Revolution
Location Revolution

Since my introduction of Michael Moore's "Sicko", I have researched and investigated countries that take the best care of its citizens. It's largely considered absurd to not only permanently leave the U.S., but to eventually relinquish my U.S. citizenship.

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